I often feel that I'll never find someone that I can be happy with. In the past I've had a couple of relationships that weren't great, and the guys involved were controlling and verbally abusive to me...
to such an extent that now if there is even a hint of that it just makes me go completely cold, and usually I lose all interest. It is an overreaction on my part, but I still don't seem to be able to change that.
It seems so deep-rooted that I'm not sure that I'll ever be able to change it. I'd love to find someone to be really close to, a soul-mate, but no sign of him so far 
will I ever find true love? ![]()
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soul mates
@ 2008-08-21 – 19:30:20
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Destined to be Alone?
@ 2008-08-21 – 10:50:00
Just recently someone said that I will probably never find a new love in my life because of "my exacting standards" and "my criteria"!!! I just had to try not to take this too personally after all I'd just told him that he wasn't the one for me.
For a moment I thought perhaps he was right and decided to look at what he termed "my exacting standards and criteria" and came up with this.
What I want:
Someone to talk to
Someone to laugh (and even cry with)
Romance and Passion
Someone who makes me feel special
Someone who makes me feel alive
A good snoggerThat doesn't seem too much to ask for in one person

As for criteria (apart from the above)
I'm not racist - apart from green-eyed monsters!
I'm not ageist - but perhaps would have to seriously think about the under 35s and the over 75s
I'm not sizist - in all interpretations of this statement!
I'm not materialistic but have to safeguard what little I possess
I'm not looking for looks - though I might turn down Quasimodo (unless he had a good sense of humour and could snog well!!)
I don't really want a smoker but wouldn't say no to a considerate one who goes outside to do so.
That's about it. Oh I might be sexist - I want a man (perhaps that's where I'm going wrong? -nah!)
So - am I looking for the unattainable?
Answers on a postcard please.
ps - and not married!


